Christmas is around the corner and it is the beautiful season of giving and receiving.
As delightful as this is, it can also be stressful. Especially when you have no clue what gifts to give.
Do you feel like you hit too many dead ends in your thought process and budget when you try to think of an original and unique gift for the special people you love? What do you do when you really have no idea where to start?
The Five Love Languages
There is a great book called the “Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, which describes giving and receiving in an interesting way. He suggests that we all have our own way of showing and understanding love – when love is spoken in a language that we understand, we feel loved and appreciated.
What are the five love languages?
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Acts of Service
How do YOU receive love?
It is important for you to know which love languages resonate with you. It is also your responsibility to teach the people in your life this language. When you do this, the people you care about will be able to understand you more completely and give you a gift that truly touches your heart.
So how do you identify your own love language? Let me give you a hint – the way that you give love to the people around you is usually how you understand it.
Let me use my own love languages to illustrate this. I am a “Quality Time” person, but I also respond to “Acts of Service.” When I give love to others, I tend to express it by either doing something for someone, or by creating quality moments to connect.
How I receive love is when someone takes the time to help me with something that is really important to me, like loading pictures on my rotating digital picture frame (which I never seem to get time to do). This means so much to me.
When I spend quality time with a person and the conversation is captivating and engaging – where we connect and share great moments – I feel an impact. I am smiling from the inside out, I feel inspired and I am radiant!
Knowing and sharing how you receive love is the key to connecting more fully to the people in your life.
How do you think the special people in your life understand love?
This is a very relevant subject, especially at this time of the year. Who wants to just go out and buy another gift that might not mean that much to the person you are giving it to? Another pair of socks is not very exciting.
But mindfulness, as you exchange “presence,” brings treasures that money cannot buy.
Take a moment to think about the people in your life. What is their love language? What do you notice is important to them?
Creating unforgettable moments
When my kids were young, my son Jaron bought me the movie “The Kid.” It is a funny and touching story that I absolutely love. But what made this gift so special was that Jaron heard me express how much I appreciated this magical movie, and he remembered this when he purchased his gift for me.
I remember to this day how I felt when I opened that gift. We were spending some quality time together, and as I opened the gift, it brought tears to my eyes. I remember feeling loved and appreciated because he had remembered something that I thought was so insignificant to someone else.
This was a very special moment that I will never forget.
What do you remember?
As you are mindful of the people you love, what do you remember? What are the special things that make this person light up? What love languages do they communicate – verbally or non-verbally – that resonate for them?
I pray that this Christmas season will be a time that you remember the special little details that are meaningful to you and those you love. It’s not about spending money on expensive gifts, but creating meaningful and unforgettable moments for the ones you love. It is these moments that create the magical and unexpected surprises than bring serendipity to this joyous season.