What a blessing it is to wake up in the morning and to be experiencing gratitude and believing for ‘the so much more’ in life. It makes me realize that this honestly is the ONLY way to live!
I anticipate that opportunity will come and think about what I need to do to prepare for it. I believe in abundance and mentally visualize it. This so often comes my way!
Life has not always been like this. I remember the days when I use to wake up dreading the day and feeling like I had to go to work and deal with the many responsibilities in life because I was obligated, and this does not create passion for life.
No purpose or passion… life needs to change!
Feeling stressed, not enjoying what I was doing, tolerating life, going one a hundred miles per hour, accomplishing a lot but never stopping to experience appreciation and gratitude for the breath of life that was given to me each and every day, I felt myself wondering ‘Is this living life?’
Life changed when I took inventory. As I curiously examined my life I realized that I was ‘sick and tired’ of being ‘sick and tired’. Negativity was ruling my mind and this was having an enormous impact. I desired change but how?
The moment …
I enjoy reading and learning how to be well and do well so I can excel in all aspects of my life. I remember reading research that was done on children that grew up in a critical home. What I learned was that one of the most important times as a family is at the dinner table and that it should be a time of connection. Children are greatly impacted by the conversations that takes place at dinnertime.
Do dinner conversations growing up have an impact on you?
Yes they do!
I grew up in a large family of seven children. My parents had gone through World War II and had come to Canada with absolutely nothing. They had to figure out how to survive and boy did they struggled! There was no government assistance at the time, they worked hard just to pay the bills, which meant they worked all of the time.
So needless to say, dinnertime wasn’t usually the most joyous time.
I get it! My parents were tired. Mom was trying to manage a multitude of kids (one of us was sure to be acting out or aggravating someone), make the meals, pinch pennies, grow a garden, stay on top of the laundry and keep up with maintaining a home without all the conveniences we have today. Dad diligently worked hard framing houses and running his construction company, which required more than an 8 work hour day and it was physically exhausting. At the end of the day, I often remember seeing my dad passed out on the carpet absolutely exhausted!
What I know now and didn’t know back then was that they were doing their best!
At the end of the day my parents were ‘done’ and they did not have much left to give or did they have the time or energy to deal with all of us kids. Simply getting everyone to the dinner table was a major task.
Stressed and tired parents, rambunctious kids, dinnertime was often stressful. There was never a lot of conversation and instead of it being a times of connection, it was often a time of correction. To hear criticism, complaining, or experience punishment by ‘the silent treatment’, is not a positive experience.
Experiences in our childhood often impacts us and influences the habits and patterns we establish in our adult life.
Sometimes these habits and patterns aren’t the best and this can cause havoc in our lives.
As good as good intentions are to be our best and do our best, this pure desire is often not enough. We want to be great parents/business owners/partners/spouses/friends. Yet why it it that we have difficulty in making it happen and that we find it hard to connect?
What patterns in our life need to be addressed?
A pattern in my life that needed to be addressed was that I had adopted from my upbringing a critical mindset. It was a tendency to think negative which was limiting. Realizing that this was not a healthy strategy and a desire for change opened my heart to exploring new beliefs and perspectives.
My greatest realization was that negativity is never productive. There is no win-win or ever a solution. What I recognized was that this pattern had to change if I wanted to be successful!
What are some of the patterns how negativity shows up?
- Seeing what is not working rather than what is…
- Double guessing…
- Not trusting…
- Reacting rather than responding (there is a difference)
- Getting lost in the ‘stories/drama of life’—circumstances, which distorts reality…
- An inability to confidently make decisions…
- Lacking confidence…
- Being hard on yourself and others…
- Having too high expectations…
- Focusing on what is not getting done rather than on what was…
- Worrying too much…
- Feeling overwhelmed…
- Being afraid to step out of your comfort zone and to take risks.
How does it show up for you? Does this have an impact? It sure does and it is not that positive. This causes limitations in your life!
Becoming aware of the impact of negativity thinking is valuable.
Break old patterns by choosing to be more positive. Be with people that think positive and choose to live life abundantly. This is a powerful choice. A positive attitude in life is motivating, inspiring, energizing and it is contagious!
I want to live a bigger, more fulfilling and an abundant life EVERY day. This means letting go of any patterns of negativity that would disrupt the way!
New patterns are needed. New neural pathways do need to form.
Be open— Learn to trust, understand and intuitively find the keys that path the way. This is the catalyst for positive change in your life.
TO CHANGE OLD PATTERNS MEANS TO THINK POWERFULLY!
Practice positive affirmations. Engage in empowering conversations. This will inspire you in your personal growth journey and it is the perfect environment for greatness to grow.
One step at a time. Awareness. One amazing choice at a time— greatness will blossom and redesign your life!